The autobiography of a sex worker
[...] Nalini’s voice is strong and unrepentant, that of a woman who knows what she is doing and not that of a victim forced into the trade through guile. Though she initially took up the trade as a young widow to feed her two children, in later life she tries to find dignity in the work she does.
For her sex work is a profession like any other. And if it paid better than, say, domestic work, why not opt for it, is her argument.
Even when she associates herself with Jwalamukhi, an organisation working for the rights of sex workers, she learns to make documentaries and travels widely to show her documentaries on sex workers, she does not give up her trade.
Her penchant for convincingly arguing her case is exemplary. Listen to this; “Some writers have been asking— isn’t sex an elevated experience, to be enjoyed with sensitivity, can it be sold? We are taught, ‘The treasure of knowledge is the greatest of treasures.’ Now, if we ask the teacher to give us this wealth of knowledge for free, will he do it? No. He needs a salary... So what’s the great sin if the sex worker asks for remuneration?”
And again, “We demand that sex work be decriminalised. This does not mean establishing licenses ... By ‘decriminalising’, what we mean is this: if two people want to have sex by common consent, if this is in no way a nuisance to others, then it should not be questioned. This is particularly important in Kerala, where there are no brothels.”
Her writing is characterised by wry humour even when she talks of loss. Of a client she says, “The directions continued even in bed: don’t snore, people who snore aren’t good, so be careful.
“And then when he fell asleep, he’d emit gargantuan snores, which could well compete with the Pandava Bheema’s fearsome battle-cries.”
A determined, self-willed woman, who hates playing the victim, she marries thrice but has no qualms about dumping two of her husbands when she feared her self-respect was being eroded. And this when her third marriage had lasted 12 years and had given her daughter a sense of security.
Sparing no one, not even feminists— “It’s women who strut around, thinking of themselves as progressive who often behave the worst”. Nalini Jameela’s is a voice that one cannot easily dismiss.
Deccan Herald - Bangalore,India
Quotes of the Month
Seeing the police members at the welcoming event together with sex workers activists and supporters, hearing the fact that 90% of reported cases between 2005 -2009 are solved and perpetrators are convicted, and that rape rate over the last year was 40%, was a real inspiration and hope that in a period of time, trough a committed work we can get there too..
--- Marija Tosheva (HOPS, Macedonia) about IHRA-2010, Liverpool.
SEX WORKERS REPORT
Picture of the Month
SZEXE, Budapest, Hungary. December 17, 2012.